Alaskan country to the core
Best friend and the greatest of souls
Had love for all things Dodge or Polaris
Sweetest of men
Off key singer, yet still the best seranade I ever had.
Full of dreams and goals
Always had that little smirk of a smile and laugh that used your whole face
Never one to not say " hey dude"
Good mommas boy and not in the bad or creepy way, the that is love and respect way.
Best of older brothers
Blue eyes that looked at me and really saw me
His first lover
My first love
Never completly gone
Life is cherished
Blessed to have known him
Would have loved to see what else he would do and become
A small poem....
will I see your smiling face,
will I feel your strong firm embrace.
will I wish upon the starry skies,
will I gaze into your loving eyes.
will I feel your warm lips upon mine,
will my eyes sparkle and shine.
the streets your feet will roam,
Because Our Lord and Savior decided to take you Home.
~ These are just a few things that come to mind when I think of you, we think of you often, most especially this day, we hope you are watching us and our proud. We are love you, we miss you and we will see you one day again~
Dustin Lee Gard
May 1982- August 2001
Saturday, August 28
Alaskan country to the core
Posted by Alaskangal B at 1:10 PM
Why is there this need on this day, that I feel the need to write? It is not as if you or those events that occured on this day 9 years ago never cross my mind at times through out the rest of the year.
But it just something about this day, that makes me feel I have to write.
To say hello? To let you know you are still in my heart, that we all miss you? To try to find a song or the words to let you know your death was not in vain? Is it to show other people that even though I moved on, I have a heart and not to think that I never loved you? To make myself feel better, to get these memories, good and horribly horribly bad down on paper or computer screen?
I think it is all of the above.
I do talk to you sometimes, I do wonder if we would have stayed together, would you have proposed to me 3 days later like you were going to, would I have said yes? If we didn't would we have stayed friends? I hope so to all of that in a way.
Since I do talk and I hope you listen, since I believe in that sort of thing. You know you are still in my heart, you are/were such a gentle soul, so corny and funny. You are deeply missed. Probally not even the most by me. You were an Alaskan country boy to the core. Your love err...more like obession for your truck was endearing and amusing at the same time.
Over the years I have found several songs to go towards how I feel/felt and to find the words for me about your death, here are some of them.
I too, in a selfish way want others to know I think about you on this day. I hope too that you were upset with those that could not see me "move on". That so rudely ended their friendship, if I even had one for reals with them to begin with. I mean 11 months is too soon? We knew each other in school, had been friends for months before we dated and then we dated for 7 months. We were 19, the whole world ahead of us and I was supposed to end my life? Have my heart die with you? A part of it did. I just find it so un fair the words that were said about me. I am so confused as to how I dishonored your memory. I hope you don't think so?
Memories. Sigh. The memories, there was a time that no good ones were there, the darkness that was in my mind and soul overpowered the good times we had. My mind replayed the night over and over again, trying to find a solution or another event that did not end up with my scars, physical and emotional, most importantly did not end up with you dead. That darkness started to spread too far, I had to stop it. The hospital vists and surgery after surgery did not help the light I was seeking to find me.
I broke down so many times, tried so hard to be normal, party, laugh, live...tried so hard to sleep at night, not to be so afraid to even use the bathroom with out the door locked. Tried so hard, that some thought it did not affect me, some thought I got over it quickly. Did they not see that was part of getting over it? Did they not see the shadows in my eyes, the desperatness in my smile? The lies in my laughs? Am I that good of an actress.
But in the end I am thankful for the battle I survived and it took a bit for me to get there, to be able to say that. I will always wonder why me? Why not him? Could he be further in life than I right now? To be fair, I am not where I wanted to be at 28, career wise. However, I can not change that, it is how it is. So I have to look at my scars and be thankful I still have my arm, eye and knee. I have to deal with the times a shadow at night or a sound makes my heart pump quick and hard and the lose of sleep that night occurs. Be thankful that I have the abilty to be scared and be thankful that no one will ever get in my house and put my life in their hands again. ever.
Sometimes this "pep" talk would work, others just empty thoughts and words to attempt to make my guilt and pain seem less.
It is weird that last year, I thought of you, wrote some words, but was okay.
This year. not so. It has been a rough week. Maybe it was from the pictures, the slideshow, it brought your face back right in front of my brain and thoughts. The good times right there in the front, which then brought the bad. Nightmares every night this week, un able to sleep till daylight, calling into my work and being sad. I had hoped those affects were done with.
this is a depressing post
I do not want that to be, I am in love, deeply with a man that I only allowed myself to start to fall in love with because of the love you gave me, the relationship we had. Thank you
I have made wonderful friends and have tons of pictures, because of our friendship and lack of pictures of our moments, I feel I cherish them all more, because of you. the loss of you. Thank you.
I have seen different countries, cultures and cherished it and lived it. Because of you.
So know that it was not your time, nothing will ever make it completly right, but your death was not in vain, those horrible moments in that event will have some sort of postive effect. Know that I am that much stronger, appriecative and more open to new things, because of your death.
Dustin, you are missed and today that longing to see you is that much stronger. That is all the reasons why I want to write on this day.
Posted by Alaskangal B at 10:00 AM
Thursday, August 26
This is "my life currently"
I wanted to get everyone caught up on my summer and the what nots of my life right now
* summer camp is as hard and fun as they all said it would be
* Italy was amazing, hot weather, hot shoes, hot people, Pisa? Overrated, but this lil ole' Alaskan is thankful I saw it
* I removed mother from her postion, she is now ole'womb, that happens when you can not call your child(ren) back after 3 months.
* I realized I read a bunch of fluff, so going to start to read more substance, like twinkies vs. brocoli
* I failed my shopping ban, going to try again in Sept or Oct. Summer just has too many good deals
* I miss the mountains
* I have the best, without a doubt husband ever
* turning 28 is not something I wanted to do, I like the sound of 27 better, but now that I am here, I will live.
* i can not find my ipod. i am dying, really. i might need to buy a new one. it was 5 years old. but ipod? Where art thou? i need you
* has fallen in love with ice cream again, hot days do that to you
* misses my girlfriends in the states, Belgium is changing so much for me, i am trying to focus on travel, but i am someone who likes to be alone, but not feel lonely. if that makes sense?
* has become hooked on DIY blogs, can not wait to move back to the states with all the thrift store finds from Europe and make a home finally. hopefully
* Is torn between wanting to stay overseas.
* is super excited about my fall classes for school.
* fell off the diet wagon, now i am chasing it right now, maybe tommorow i will get on it again
Posted by Alaskangal B at 12:55 PM